“Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.”
– Oprah Winfrey
This seems obvious. Relationship is a team. A Marriage is a team. But often, this is the first thing
that breaks down.
“I felt it shelter to speak to you.” – Emily Dickinson.
Much has been made of men’s so-called “Fear of Intimacy” issues. I, for one, don’t believe that “Fear of Intimacy” has ever stopped a man from committing himself to a woman he really wants. The nature of a man is to Go for it – [...]
“Into the woods, and who can tell what’s waiting on the journey?
Into the woods and through the fear you have to take the journey…
Into the woods, each time you go, there’s more to learn of what you know…”
– Stephen Sondheim.
Is it really the wayward leaf that’s so upsetting? Or the idea that we are in [...]
“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” – Jalalad-din Rumi
As we begin working together through the 5 Keys to a Great Relationship, you’ll begin to see a pattern. You’ll see that I’ll be asking [...]
This Stopping will be a very important tool for you throughout the program, and I want you to start practicing it
now. Stop what you’re doing. Completely turn away from the unhappy thought and the conversation in your head about it.
With as little energy as possible (and this is important – no wrenching, pulling, no belittling [...]
Now, more than fifteen years later, my marriage just gets better every day. Sometimes I stand around amazed at
my good fortune. I know that my husband is the same good man he was before, and that our good marriage has created a place for us both to grow into the best people we can be, [...]
I noticed that I was saying and doing things that were completely destructive to my idea of what a great romance and marriage should be. I was making sure there was no real intimacy, trust and passion in the relationship, and I was
angry with him about it!
First, affection slowed down. Laughing and being silly stopped. Sex stopped. I was getting nervous and anxious and
not sleeping well. He was moody. Angry. Withdrawing from me. We tried couples therapy, which only made me feel
angrier and more hopeless. This went on for almost four years until, in desperation, I figured it out.
I’d found instructions [...]
For me, information was the missing link. I was successfully working on myself, uncovering old feelings, changing my actions, but I was like a child in some ways. I needed information. I needed a How To. Getting the great relationship I wanted and then keeping it great was like learning a foreign language. I needed [...]
“You can close your eyes to the things you do not want to see, but you cannot close your heart to the things you do not want to feel.” – Anonymous
I’ve done talk therapy, psychoanalysis, hypnosis, Reichian and Rebirthing bodywork, written many
books, plays and film scripts and even more journals, and participated in some therapy [...]