“We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.” – Anonymous
How do you know if your husband or boyfriend has what it takes to step up to the plate and be a full partner for you? You don’t. Key #1 is about deciding, right now, [...]
The tool of being able to return again and again to the positive, as gently as you can, works like a magic wand. You
can wave it over any moment of relationship conflict.
Instantly, you’ll see a way out of the cycles and patterns of anger and defensiveness that got you into trouble in the first place. [...]
When you’ve filled the page (and perhaps more pages – on your computer or in a journal,) look over what you’ve written. Pick out 3 of your favorite observations. Circle them or rewrite them here:
An example would be: He touches me on my cheek and looks into my eyes, and I just melt. Or He’s [...]
Even if you believe that you do know what you want – it’s the specific, sensual details of your desire that starts the
wheels in motion. Throughout this book, we’ll be using guided imagery and fantasy to help bring vague desires into
3-D wants you can actually see and feel.
Let’s start by imagining the perfect relationship Your [...]
“Having someone wonder where you are when you don’t come
home at night is a very old human need.” – Margaret Mead.
Many of us don’t even believe we deserve what brings us pleasure and so we don’t allow ourselves to want it. Many of us squelch down the desire so quickly that we don’t even give [...]
It’s a myth that you have to “work” on a relationship.
All you need is an instruction book, a mentor, and partner to work with.
The relationship or first date itself is the tutorial.
You can visualize this by looking at your entire self as a circle. Put another circle in the center that’s almost as big as the first. The outer layer is what’s conscious, or what you know about yourself. What’s in the deepest circle is the buried treasure – what you don’t know about. The big [...]
“Many of us spend our lives saying we would give anything for love, while we’re often really pushing it away.” – Merle Shain If you’re not used to it, love can be scary. If you’re used to always being in control, being in love can feel like being crazy.
CAN I FALL IN LOVE WITH HIM [...]