When you’ve filled the page (and perhaps more pages – on your computer or in a journal,) look over what you’ve written. Pick out 3 of your favorite observations. Circle them or rewrite them here:
An example would be: He touches me on my cheek and looks into my eyes, and I just melt. Or He’s [...]
This Stopping will be a very important tool for you throughout the program, and I want you to start practicing it
now. Stop what you’re doing. Completely turn away from the unhappy thought and the conversation in your head about it.
With as little energy as possible (and this is important – no wrenching, pulling, no belittling [...]
First, affection slowed down. Laughing and being silly stopped. Sex stopped. I was getting nervous and anxious and
not sleeping well. He was moody. Angry. Withdrawing from me. We tried couples therapy, which only made me feel
angrier and more hopeless. This went on for almost four years until, in desperation, I figured it out.
I’d found instructions [...]
For me, information was the missing link. I was successfully working on myself, uncovering old feelings, changing my actions, but I was like a child in some ways. I needed information. I needed a How To. Getting the great relationship I wanted and then keeping it great was like learning a foreign language. I needed [...]
You can visualize this by looking at your entire self as a circle. Put another circle in the center that’s almost as big as the first. The outer layer is what’s conscious, or what you know about yourself. What’s in the deepest circle is the buried treasure – what you don’t know about. The big [...]
“The longest journey you will make in your life is from your head to your heart.” – Sioux legend SYNCHRONICITY
Wanting something is essential to getting it.
Once you want something fiercely enough, not only are you more able to figure out how to get it, it seems everyone else on the planet wants it for you [...]
“Many of us spend our lives saying we would give anything for love, while we’re often really pushing it away.” – Merle Shain If you’re not used to it, love can be scary. If you’re used to always being in control, being in love can feel like being crazy.
CAN I FALL IN LOVE WITH HIM [...]
“If I could reach up and hold a star for every time you’ve made me smile, the entire evening sky would be in the palm of my hand.” – Unknown
First, I want to set the ground rules to save my marriage. What we’re going to be about here is getting you the big ticket items [...]